While there’s no denying that those early days in a relationship are a wonderful time. The rest of the world fades into the background while you’re completely wrapped up in your little love bubble. While this time is fantastic and probably the best part of being in a relationship it does have its downfalls. There’s no woman over the age of 25 that has not at some point fallen victim to the dreaded “boyfriend belly”.
We girls are forces to be reckoned with when we’re single; we can work, cook, and hit the gym three times a week and dance off 1000 calories on a Friday night. But all too often when we start a relationship we slowly let go of our gym time, our dancing with the girls or healthy shopping and cooking until one day we realize we’ve gained ten pounds in less than a year.
Would you say any of the following are true of your relationship?
a) You match your man portion for portion
b) Your own dinner plate has doubled since you started going out.
c) You haven’t had a salad in months.
d) You order in take-away once a week.
e) You stopped going to the gym in favour of chilling with your other half.
f) You have given up on your girl’s nights out in favour of going out with other couples.
g) You and your man eat out regularly.
h) You feel comfortable enough with your boyfriend to relax your fitness and diet regime.
i) Dressing up and looking good doesn’t seem as important as it used to.
j) You are surgically attached to your comfy pants.
k) Somehow you have acquired a junk cupboard stuffed to the brim with biscuits crisps and snickers bars where your treat cupboard containing some go ahead biscuits used to be.
If you agree with any of these points you may have fallen victim to the “boyfriend belly”, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Your boyfriend may also be feeling the effects of your love fest. Read on for some handy tips on reclaiming you post boyfriend body:
Go for a long walk:
Go for a long walk together somewhere scenic and quiet, walking is great exercise and you still get to indulge in time alone together and maybe even a little hand holding.
Team up:
If your partner is also after putting on a few unwanted pounds then you can agree to get fit and healthy together, or even make a competition out of it bet who’s going to lose 3 lbs first. Betting on who has to do chores can be a real motivator, show me a man who wouldn’t rather run a mile than clean the bathroom. Make a commitment together by taking advantage of our great rate for couples membership at only €220 for 3 months full use of our gym, pool, sauna and steamroom.
Watch your portions:
We could talk all day about what a terrible injustice nature has bestowed upon women in terms of lean body mass. That is to say men are larger and leaner than us, they can eat more than us as their bodies burn calories faster and more efficiently than ours. While it is terribly unfair it is True. Matching your partner bite for bite is the worst thing we can do. Men have higher energy requirements and need more food than you do. Remember to stop eating when you are full and yes that does mean his plate will be piled higher than yours, in some cases much higher.
Saying “I love you”
Men tend to use props when it comes to communicating their feelings for you. So when your man does something hugely irresponsible or insensitive he will use chocolate and plenty of it in his apology. Similarly when it comes to birthdays, anniversaries and valentines they will use Milk Trays and Lily O’ Brien to show their undying love. This is the ultimate relationship fat trap. Avoid it altogether by letting your other half know you prefer flowers to chocolate.
Say goodbye to decadence
Everything about dating in the early days seems to revolve around massive calorie consumption. Three course meals at dimly lit Italian restaurants, trips to the cinema where its impossible to resist the temptation of popcorn and of course going with a man it’s inevitable you’ll walk away from the counter with a jumbo deal. Now that your settled into a loving a comfortable relationship why not swap the three course meals for trying out new recipes together at home, you can always replicate the romance and intimacy of dinner out with a few candles and a tablecloth. Try more active forms of dating such as bowling or cycling and a picnic.
The comfort zone
In every relationship it’s only a matter of time before you reach the comfort zone, that is when you don’t have to wake twenty minutes before himself to reapply your make-up or when he arrives at your door unexpectedly and your wearing an oversized tracksuit and sporting a hair-do that looked like is was done by the make-up artist of Scary Movie. But, how long before the comfort zone becomes uncomfortable. It’s great to be able to look a bit scrappy in front of your man but none of us can really say it’s a confidence boost to find we can’t do the top button of our jeans. Even though there may be no need to impress our partners with our great physiques and tiny dresses, we still need to feel comfortable and confident in our clothes.
Reclaim your girl time
Now that it’s all going right for you and life is great don’t forget about the girls that got you there. We can tend to be lazy when it comes to prioritizing friend time when were in relationships. Get back out with the girls, go dancing, walking, jogging or sweating it out in the gym together.
So if you have fallen victim to the “boyfriend belly” take comfort in the fact that you are not alone and let us help you to get back on the road to health and fitness!
Terry Corkery
Fitness Instructor